Why do top people need more self-confidence?

After the publication of “Confidence”, I received a lot of feedback from the audience, one of which I found was really misunderstood, and I wrote this article to help you clarify it.

The thing is like this, during a lunch break in a class, a student Sharon, who was still in college, sneaked up to me and said, “Teacher, I thought that the people who would come to the class were not confident, but I ended up chatting with everyone after class. I just found out that there are clinic directors, homestay owners, and high-level engineers, which are completely different from what I thought!”

I asked Sharon, “So what did you think? Did you think that people who don’t have self-confidence need to take classes?”

Sharon said: “Well, yes, I thought that all the people who would come to the class were people who were not confident like me, but during the chat, I felt that each of them was super confident, and they would not be nervous when they came to the stage to speak. ”

Later, after chatting with Sharon, I chatted with some younger friends, and I found that she is not the only one who thinks this way, but many people think:

“People who do not have self-confidence only need to take classes to have self-confidence! 》

Frankly, as a coach who teaches confidence, I hope this is true too, you must be wondering why I say that, right?

Because that way, it’s much easier for me to teach, without the need for personalization and the constant conversations with everyone in the class.

If self-confidence is distinguished by the concept of presence or absence, then I only need to be responsible for transforming [people without self-confidence] into [people with self-confidence], just like giving a gift or giving a treasure, as long as you come , I will give you such a treasure as self-confidence, as long as you take it with you, you don’t have to be afraid of any challenges, how good is this?

But unfortunately, self-confidence is not divided by the dichotomy of “yes” or “nothing”. True self-confidence is a state of high efficiency and extreme relaxation, and outstanding people still encounter adversity, they In fact, the life of a normal person is no different from that of ordinary people, and it is full of many challenges and unsolved problems.

So the question is, why do top successful people also need self-confidence, aren’t they already great?

Think about it with two simple questions, and you’ll see why:

1. Would the average athlete hire a mind coach?

2. Do top athletes hire mind coaches?

I don’t have to tell you the answer, I think you should be able to get the answer right away, right?

To take a recent example, tennis legend Federer:

“Federer emerged in the tennis world as a teenager, but the journey was not satisfactory. Since 1998, with the help of sports psychologist Chris Marcolli, he learned that in the process of pursuing perfection, because he could not accept his own mistakes and losses , the ensuing emotions led to more bad consequences. Because he didn’t understand himself, he couldn’t break through. Learning to control his emotions was the turning point of his life and the key to every subsequent game victory. It also created today’s Federer’s championship legend, A personable, highly anticipated court athlete. (Quoted from: Federer’s Key to Perfection, Proper Emotional Management.)”

Others, like Phil Jackson, the first coach to bring Zen to the NBA (the coach of Michael Jordan and Kirby Bryan), who in their pursuit of excellence eventually recognized:

“Those who can maintain confidence, calmness and calmness under great pressure will be the final winners of the competition”

To be more specific, the reason why these people need to learn to control their emotions and control their self-confidence, what they expect is:

“At the most critical moment, you can play 100% of your strength”

Because the closer you are to the top, the smaller the gap between everyone’s strength. In the competition between the first and second place, no one knows who will be killed until the last minute. At this time, the factors that determine the victory or defeat are the mind and will. contest.

Like:

• For a top business, the exchange between a few words may be hundreds of millions of business
• For top athletes, the moment of victory and defeat may only be the last three minutes of the entire game

Because of this, the pressure they face at this time is unimaginable for ordinary people, and the consequences of mistakes are considerable, so they must keep themselves in a state of high efficiency and self-confidence in order to achieve the results of their usual practice.

And self-confidence is like a muscle, it can be exercised, and the more you use it, the more stable, flexible, and controllable it becomes.

Therefore, the self-confidence course is different from the usual clichés, and it is also different from those courses that only talk about the big truth and the lecturer’s story. What we are talking about is the method of tailoring your own story for you through a specific process, so that the big truth is no longer a It is a big truth, but can be deeply felt and practically applied in life.

Then again, if you’ve ever chatted with someone who has taken the class, you’ll also know that the lecture notes for the confidence class are blank.

Handouts are blank? What are you teaching in class?

This is the original intention of Mr.P to design this course, because this is a completely experiential course, you will use a systematic way to tap your inner thoughts and train your “confidence muscles through self-practice methods” ”, create your own self-confidence style with personalized adjustments.

And my job is to guide you to complete it by yourself, which is why I always have a small class system. Only in this way can I take into account everyone’s learning situation.

At the same time, the blank handouts will also be filled by your hands, and I will take you step by step to complete your own handouts, which is your blueprint for self-confidence.

The Confidence Blueprint is like your personal “Confidence Handbook”, and when you’re done, you’ll know:

• What is my real fear?
• How do I face and overcome it?
• How do I manage my emotions?
• How can I encourage myself in times of frustration?
• How do I overcome a challenge when I encounter it again?
• How do you deal with tension and use your true strength?

To put it simply, this is a fully customized journey, I am your guide on the journey, and you will discover that your inner self-confidence is actually limitless during the journey of confidence.

Summary

1. Are all the people who will come to the class without self-confidence?

In fact, this is a misunderstanding by ordinary people. Take the students of the two sessions as an example. Many people found out after chatting that some of the classmates were the owners of chain restaurants, the proprietresses of homestays, and even the deans of clinics. They all came to be a better version of themselves.

2. What can someone who already has self-confidence gain through the course?

Just like top athletes need better coaches, people with confidence who come to class will be able to gain more mastery of self-confidence. The better the mastery, the more calm and calm you will be under huge pressure, and you will be able to play yourself. The usual strength.

3. What is the difference from the general curriculum?

This is a hands-on and experiential course where you will complete your own self-confidence blueprint, learn how to develop self-confidence for yourself, and continue to exert influence in your life.